First dates are the definition of first impressions. It is important to show who you are and be comfortable on your first date. You probably give a lot of thought to your outfit, but what about your shoes? You might be surprised to know that others can accurately judge your personality by looking at your shoes. Consider the messages you want to send to your date when you pick out your footwear!
With Valentine’s Day coming up, you might well be getting prepared for a day or evening out with a special someone. If you’re hoping to find love it’s always best to be yourself. However, there are a few tips we can give you to help you choose the right footwear for the occasion.
Which Shoes Are Best for a Date?
Before selecting that all-important pair of shoes, here are some of the details of your footwear to consider:
Style: don’t wear anything too flashy on your first date, keep it nice and simple. Classic styles work really well. Flats and heels can both be suitable, it’s always best to wear the style that you’re most comfortable with. If you never wear heels, there’s no need to start on your first date.
Finish: chances are, your date will notice your shoes. Whatever style you opt for make sure they are clean and cared for. Give them a quick polish or brush to remove any marks or scuffs and leave your footwear looking like new.
Colour: when selecting the colour of your shoes, think about your whole outfit. If you’re wearing an outfit that isn’t very colourful, black and white for example, why not try to add some colour with your shoes.
Above all, when there’s so much to think about it’s always best to wear shoes that match your style. Most people feel uncomfortable when they wear things that they’re not used to, and nobody wants to add further discomfort to a first date situation. If brightly coloured shoes aren’t your style, don’t pick them out for your date.
Heel: If you want to wear high heels, make sure they’re comfortable and suitable. A lot of women don’t wear heels due to them being scared they’ll be taller than their date. The truth is, your date won’t grow throughout your relationship! If heels are your preference then go for it!
A study by the University of Portsmouth found that heels emphasise femininity, and women wearing heels were rated as more attractive than those who weren’t. This might be a reason for many women to opt for the heels on a first date, as science proves that they really are a big part of dressing to impress!
So, Which Shoes Should I choose?
Now you’ve thought about the type of shoe that might be right for your date, here are some thoughts on how to narrow it down to the final pair:
Your Outfit: Your shoes depend on a lot on the outfit you’re wearing. If you’re wearing jeans, you may want to opt for some ankle boots or stilettoes. If you’re wearing a dress or skirt that passes the knee, heels are the most flattering choice.
Where you’re going: You should always aim to dress appropriately for your date. Make sure you know what your date involves and what you’re likely to be doing. Will you be sitting down or walking? You can then make your judgment on whether heels are suitable.
If you’re going to be out for a fancy dinner, you could wear a gorgeous pair of stilettoes. If you’re going to be walking more try wearing a block heel, this will take some of the pressure off the ball of your foot. If it’s just a casual daytime date, go for some ankle boots, you can never go wrong with some booties. Whatever shoes you wear, make sure you are comfortable in them, and you’ve worn them before. A first date is not the best time for brand new shoes.
Comfort: When you’re not comfortable, it shows. On a first date, you’ll want to seem confident and comfortable so choose your shoes accordingly. It doesn’t matter if these shoes are heels or flats. If you’re more comfortable in flats, wear your flats. They are super easy to style. You can wear flats with dresses, skirts, and jeans.
The season: think about what the weather might throw at you even if you think you’ll be staying indoors. Don’t wear open shoes in the middle of winter and realise halfway through your date that you can’t feel your toes! If it is cold, the best bet may be to wear a pair of jeans and some booties. The advantage of wearing boots is that you can wear a pair of thick socks underneath which keep your feet warm, without anyone knowing. Boots also provide extra comfort and are super stylish too.
Our Top First Date Shoe Styles
Often, one of the first things your date will notice about your appearance is your shoes. There are certain shoes that will look good with most outfits and your date will be impressed by. Here are our top styles for a successful first date.
The Best Men’s Shoes for A Date:
The average man might not give their shoes much thought, but beware, there are plenty of footwear faux pars that might put ladies off! When 434 single women were surveyed they had similar preferences when it came to men’s shoes. Wear something that covers your feet, choose leather where possible, don’t wear your trainers, and try to look like you’ve made an effort. Simple when you know how! Here are some classic men’s styles that are easy to wear and are sure to impress.
Men’s brogues come in a variety of different colours as well as materials and a few different styles. These shoes will go with jeans, dress trousers and chinos. They’re a classic style that will make you look smart and stylish even if you have no idea what you’re doing when it comes to fashion. Just be sure that the colours of the shoes and the colour of your trousers don’t clash.
Men’s loafers are another popular choice. They again can be styled with most things. They look great with jeans, smart trousers, and chinos. The right loafers will impress your date and make sure you look effortlessly stylish.
The Best Women’s Shoes for A Date:
When it comes to women’s shoes the choice can be endless. There are a few no-no’s if you’re trying to impress, though. A study into the women’s shoe trends men dislike revealed that wedges are actually the least attractive option! Perhaps these are best avoided for a first date. Here’s what to choose instead:
High heels are perfect with the right outfit, they can make your outfit that little bit better. The best heels to wear are stilettoes and heeled ankle boots. Both can be styled in many ways and both look great. Stilettoes are better when you’re wearing longer trousers and skirts as they often have an open foot, which will make your legs look longer, especially in long skirts. Ankle boots can sometimes get in the way of your long trousers, creating an unflattering bunch at your ankles which is best avoided. Ankle boots look better with shorter skirts, shorts, and dresses, or rolled up jeans.
If you’re more of a flats kind of girl, a pair of pretty Ballerina flats look great with most outfits. They can go with skirts, trousers, dresses, and shorts.
Your appearance is just the starting point, remember to be yourself throughout your date. The most important thing is to be comfortable with what you’re wearing so your personality shines through and you can focus on your date. Have fun and enjoy, who knows you might just meet your perfect partner. Good luck!